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The season changed; should I?

People often wonder when it is the right time to make a life changing decision, such as moving in together, quitting a job, leaving a long-term partner/ spouse or moving to another city (or country). Financial and practical factors are a big part of the decision-making process, but frequently emotional considerations take the lead. Emotionally-based decisions are not necessarily bad; feelings of frustration, anger, longing, etc. can be indicators that something needs to change, and they can show us the direction in which we need to move. However, few people (if any) are capable of making great decisions when they are in an emotional turmoil. It may be useful to take some time and carefully consider and plan a big life transition, and to decipher whether it is you making the change, or is it "upset", "anger", "disappointment" or "head over heals in love"  who is calling the shots. For most people, a less impulsive, more reflective choice has a better chance of yielding positive outcomes.
* If you are considering leaving an abusive relationship, please take a little time to plan your departure, to make sure you are safe as you leave. There are many online resources to guide one through this transition.



The views and suggestions on this blog are for informational purposes only; they do not presume to capture the full complexity of an individual situation nor do they pretend to offer comprehensive therapeutic consultations. If you need help, please contact a regulated professional (registered social workers, psychotherapists or psychologists).    

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